My Husband and I have been together for 5 years and we have 1 child. He's a very good father and she gets all the attention she could ever want from him, but ever since she was a baby he started ignoring me. He comes home from work and she's the one he kisses and says hi to. If I don't greet him he will just ignore me. One night I tested him by not saying a word to him from the time he got home from work to when he went to bed. He didn't say anything to me except "what's for dinner" and then he thanked me for dinner.
He goes to bed asks me to rub his back so he can fall asleep and that's the most attention I get from him. He thinks I'm being too needy wanting affection from him everyday. We used to have sex 4 or 5 times a week and it slowly got weeded down to the once every 2 weeks that it is now. I tried talking to him about it and he just says he's tired. I'm 95% sure he's not cheating on me just cause he lacks the time to himself and I haven't seen any evidence. I think I make myself too available to him. If it was up to me I would have sex everyday multiple times a day.
He says he loves me and he doesn't know how to show it. He says he's not comfortable with showing affection. I asked him if he wants me to leave and he says no. I don't know what to do, I love him very much.
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Featured response/comment by John:
I am a 48 year old married man. The situation you described was exactly the one my wife and I shared several years ago. I worked all day, had a long commute and it seems like there were always problems. I was tired all the time. The money was tight and after working very hard everything I earned went to the kids, the house, the cars and the bills. I was working my ass off and felt like I was headed for the grave without a dime in my pocket. I guess you could call this a mild, on going, depression. As the kids got older, as my job situation changed and as we got the bills paid down, our sex life improved from once or twice a month to almost every day. Hang in there and take a look at what he is doing. Is he being rewarded for all the hard work he puts in for the family or is he being ridden around like a donkey. I know from experience that it is hard to feel like having sex when everything seems hopeless. Oh and by the way, guys don't like to talk about their feelings. The fact that he wants you to rub his back so he can sleep says volumes to me. You are still his comfort even when everything seems black.
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